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Dear Cassidy and future Baby Smith

Dear Cassidy and future Baby Smith,

I am sure that bloggers across the world are firing away about a news piece gone viral today.
http://gma.yahoo.com/k-e-diet-brides-using-feeding-tubes-rapidly-080053646--abc-news-health.html

In case this link is non-existent by the time you read this, long story short, people are using feeding tubes for rapid weight loss in a short amount of time.

This is your mother talking. If for some reason this ridiculous trend is still around when you grow up, and you think about doing this to your self, please know that I will spank you and put you in timeout. You do not diet to fit into a dress, or suit. You pick an outfit that highlights your best attributes and get it tailored to fit your body, not the other way around. No matter what size you are, as long as your are healthy, not putting toxins into your body, and exercising, whatever size you are is beautiful and perfect in God's eyes because God does not make mistakes. There is a flattering design, style and fabric for absolutely every size and do not let the media or society or your crazy friends try to tell you differently. They are lying.

Further, if you feel the need to do this to yourself and your significant other does not have an issue with it, they are not the right person for you. If they do not love you for the compassionate, loving, kind, accepting,  respectful people your father and I have raised you to be, they are not worth your time or your heart and you would be better off with a dog. Or a cat. Or a fish. Life is too short to allow people in your world, your most inner circle of family and friends, who don't love you for who you are. If you said to your loved one, "Honey, I'm going to stop eating, and use this tube for nutrients so I can fit into a smaller size on our big day," and their response is along the lines of, "Sure, whatever," don't stay with them for one second longer. Their response should be more along the lines of, "Please don't do that. You are amazing and I love you and you look great and don't need to do this to yourself because ultimately I care about you and your health, not some dress. And we're starting a marriage, the wedding is only a few hours for one day. It's not worth it." A response any less than that warrants a swift kick to the bottom!

I don't care if your friends are doing it. I don't care if your neighbors did it. I don't care if your colleagues did it. I am not their mother. I am yours. And the fact that I made you and pushed you out with no drugs into this world and raised you and fed you and clothed you and housed you gives me a certain amount of authority when it really matters to tell you what to do. Or what not do. I won't pull the mom-card often, but know that when I do I mean business.

That is all. I love you.
Love, Mom

Comments

  1. And this my friend is why I absolutely adore you! You are one of the most beautiful, brightest friends in my life and I love, love how truly wholesome you are. Thank you for being you.

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  2. Totally agree! I don't see how the men these women are marrying wouldn't speak up and tell them not to do this to themselves....it's really sad.

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